The former couple are “still very close friends.”
Words by Harper’s Bazaar Staff
When photographs of Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde holding hands hit the Internet, it seemed as though the world was desperate to find out everything they could about the fledgling couple.
Here, we round up what we know so far about Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde’s relationship.
September 2020: Harry Styles is cast in Olivia Wilde’s new movie.
Deadline reports the news that Styles has replaced Shia LaBeouf in the forthcoming movie, Don’t Worry, Darling. Wilde serves as director on the project, with a screenplay from Katie Silberman, based on an original script by the Van Dyke brothers. The movie costars Chris Pine and Florence Pugh, with Wilde taking a small role too.
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November 2020: Olivia describes her “victory dance” after casting Harry.
Interviewed as part of Styles’s Vogue cover story, Wilde opens up about her reaction to casting the former One Direction member in Don’t Worry Darling. Wilde also describes the excitement she shares with Oscar nominee, and the film’s costume designer, Arianne Phillips.
“She and I did a little victory dance when we heard that we officially had Harry in the film, because we knew that he has a real appreciation for fashion and style,” Wilde explained (via People). “And this movie is incredibly stylistic. It’s very heightened and opulent, and I’m really grateful that he is so enthusiastic about that element of the process—some actors just don’t care.”
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“To me, he’s very modern, and I hope that this brand of confidence as a male that Harry has—truly devoid of any traces of toxic masculinity—is indicative of his generation and therefore the future of the world,” Wilde said. “I think he is in many ways championing that, spearheading that. It’s pretty powerful and kind of extraordinary to see someone in his position redefining what it can mean to be a man with confidence.”
November 2020: News breaks about Olivia splitting from fiancé Jason Sudeikis.
In mid-November, news breaks of Olivia Wilde’s split from Jason Sudeikis, with People calling the breakup “amicable,” and noting the former couple’s dedication to their two children, son Otis Alexander, 6, and daughter Daisy Josephine, 4.
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A source told People, “The split happened at the beginning of the year… It’s been amicable and they’ve transitioned into a great co-parenting routine. The children are the priority and the heart of the family’s relationship.” Entertainment Tonight appeared to confirm this narrative, with a source allegedly close to Wilde calling the split “mutual.”
“They just fell out of love in a romantic way, but still have love towards one another as people,” the source explained to ET. “They consider themselves friends and co-parents first and foremost.” Another source added, “there was absolutely no drama or scandal, they just didn’t work as a couple anymore. If you’re looking for a juicy story, there just isn’t one.”
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Wilde and Sudeikis were first romantically linked in November 2011, and Sudeikis proposed to Wilde just over a year later.
January 2021: Olivia holds hands with Harry at a wedding.
In early 2021, photographs of Wilde and Styles holding hands surface online, and the Internet erupts with questions. The new couple is spotted attending his agent’s wedding at the San Ysidro Ranch in Montecito, California.
An insider revealed to People that the new couple had been dating for some time. “They were in Montecito, California this weekend for a wedding,” a source told People. “They were affectionate around their friends, held hands and looked very happy. They have dated for a few weeks.” Twitter immediately mourns the fact that Styles is no longer a single man.
Meanwhile, a source revealed to Entertainment Tonight that Wilde and Styles got to know each other on the set of Don’t Worry, Darling, and their romance blossomed from there. “Olivia and Harry are together for long days on set and have gotten to know each other really well, so it’s all very organic,” the source revealed. “[Olivia] wouldn’t let a romantic relationship get in the way of a professional one, so anything they’re doing is being done thoughtfully.”
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Further instances of PDA only seem to solidify their status as Hollywood’s newest power couple. A source also confirms to Us Weekly that Wilde and Styles worked hard to keep their relationship a secret during filming. “Olivia and Harry were able to keep their relationship under wraps for a bit before it became public knowledge,” Us Weekly‘s source revealed. “They were very careful about it and even sleuthy at times, although the small group of people who were on set with them every day eventually figured it out.”
January 2021: Jason is subjected to conflicting reports.
It’s currently unclear how Wilde’s ex, Sudeikis, feels about her new relationship with Styles. A source claimed to ET that as Wilde and Sudeikis separated “almost a year ago … it’s not like she’s rushing into something.” The source continued, “Olivia and Jason talk all the time and are still close because of the kids. It’s highly unlikely he was blind-sided by this news.” Us Weekly‘s source concurs, saying, “Harry did not break up an engagement,” describing Wilde’s relationship with Sudeikis as “already done” by the time she met Styles.
However, People told a very different story, with an insider claiming, “[Jason Sudeikis] is absolutely heartbroken about the split. There is still a lot of love there, and he would like to have hope that maybe there’s a way for them to repair things. But what happens next remains to be seen.”
January 2021: The pair’s relationship reportedly isn’t a PR stunt.
A source revealed to Entertainment Tonight that Wilde and Styles’s budding romance is the real deal, explaining that the wedding photos that first leaked confirming their relationship were not staged in any way.
“[The wedding photos were] absolutely not leaked or staged for some sort of promotional reason,” a source told the outlet, confirming that they were taken without the couple knowing.
The couple, who met on set of their upcoming film together, Don’t Worry Darling, also are reportedly having no issues balancing their professional and personal lives while on set. The source added that though the pair’s relationship isn’t a secret on set, it hasn’t gotten in the way of maintaining a “professional, collaborative and fun” work environment.
February 2021: Olivia and Harry are “very happy” together.
If anonymous sources are to be believed, then Styles and Wilde are still going strong. A source revealed to People that Wilde and Styles “seem very serious” and “spend all their time together.” The source explained, “[Olivia] is also very happy with Harry.”
As for how production on Don’t Worry Darling is going, the source told People, “Olivia and Harry continue to film in L.A. Filming has been tricky because of COVID. They have shut down the set several times for testing and breaks … Olivia is amazing to work with though. She stays calm and very focused despite all the breaks.”
February 2021: Olivia praises Harry on Instagram as Don’t Worry Darling wraps.
Director Wilde decided to share her admiration for Styles with the world by posting about him on Instagram. “Little known fact: most male actors don’t want to play supporting roles in female-led films. The industry has raised them to believe it lessens their power (i.e financial value) to accept these roles, which is one of the reasons it’s so hard to get financing for movies focusing on female stories. No joke, it is harrrrrd to find actors who recognize why it might be worth it to allow for a woman to hold the spotlight,” Wilde wrote. “Enter: @harrystyles, our ‘Jack’ . Not only did he relish the opportunity to allow for the brilliant @florencepugh to hold center stage as our ‘Alice’, but he infused every scene with a nuanced sense of humanity. He didn’t have to join our circus, but he jumped on board with humility and grace, and blew us away every day with his talent, warmth, and ability to drive backwards. 👊 #dontworrydarling.”
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The couple also posed for a photo with the rest of the cast as filming wrapped.
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February 2021: Olivia and Jason rebuild their friendship as her romance with Harry grows.
A source at Entertainment Tonight said that, while Wilde is “so happy” in her new relationship with the One Direction alum, she and Sudeikis are now “in a good place, too.”
“Jason was initially really hurt about Harry and Olivia’s relationship, but now that he’s doing his own thing, things between him and Olivia have gotten better,” said the insider. “They’re rebuilding their friendship again and co-parenting together.”
March 2021: Olivia subtly supports Harry on Instagram after his first Grammy win.
At the 63rd annual Grammys ceremony, Styles won his first Grammy for Best Pop Solo Performance for his hit single, “Watermelon Sugar.” Wilde appeared to subtly show her support for him via her Instagram Stories, where she uploaded photos of some other music legends.
Wilde gave a shout-out to a Mick Jagger performance, in which he performed onstage wearing a leather jacket, a scarf, and not much else (in case that sounds familiar). She also posted a picture of Paul McCartney biting into a watermelon slice, which fans seemed to think was a pretty obvious nod to Styles’s Grammy-winning song.
If Paul McCartney eating a Watermelon was not enough if a hint? How would Mick Jagger in a leather jacket with no shirt and a scarf will do? This woman is on fire! ❤#HarryStyles #OliviaWilde pic.twitter.com/qZeK12zyWL
— Melody (@MusicalGenre) March 16, 2021
April 2021: Harry and Olivia get a lot of “one-on-one time” in the United Kingdom.
A source for Entertainment Tonight revealed that the couple is spending time together across the pond.
“Filming during a pandemic in L.A. was pretty all-consuming,” the insider said of Wilde and Styles working together on Don’t Worry Darling. “Now they’re able to unwind, relax, and really enjoy some one-on-one time.”
The two have continued to keep a low-profile in the United Kingdom. “Their idea of a good time is going for a long walk and ducking into a neighborhood pub,” said the source.
Meanwhile, Wilde and her ex Jason Sudeikis have also mended their relationship and co-parenting dynamic. “All [Olivia’s] ever wanted is for them to have a united front,” another insider previously told the outlet. “They are and always will be a family.”
The duo, who dated for nearly a decade and were engaged, share two children together: seven-year-old son Otis and four-year-old daughter Daisy Sudeikis.
The second insider added, “She is proud of Jason and super supportive of him.”
June 2021: Harry and Olivia have “grown even closer as a couple,” a source says.
Speaking to ET Online, a source said that Styles and Wilde have been “having an awesome time” in London together where they’ve been “going on walks outside in the park and not hiding their relationship,” and have “grown even closer as a couple.”
“Yesterday, they enjoyed lunch outside and looked incredibly cute together,” the source added. “They were both in a great mood and left the restaurant holding hands. Harry put his arm around Olivia as they walked back to her house.”
July 2021: Harry and Olivia make out on a boat in Italy.
It’s safe to say that Styles and Wilde are still going strong: The pair were photographed (in images obtained by Page Six) indulging in a wild bout of boat PDA while hanging out in Italy. In the photos, they can be seen kissing, hugging, and lying in the sun together as they coordinate in matching royal blue swimwear.
September 2021: Olivia supports Harry at the opening night of his stadium tour.
Wilde was spotted supporting Styles at the opening night of his Love on Tour show in Las Vegas Saturday night. A Twitter user recorded her emerging from the backstage area to get to her seats, and a separate eyewitness told E! News that Wilde sang along to most of his songs. “She was so happy and dancing all night!” the eyewitness dishes. “It was very cute. She was singing along to almost every song…and having a good time with the people she was with,” they said.
November 2021: Olivia is spotted wearing what appears to be Harry’s gold cross necklace.
The couple seem to be dipping into each other’s closets. While attending the Gucci Love Parade fashion show, Wilde was spotted wearing a gold cross necklace that looks very similar to one of Styles’s necklaces. An eagle-eyed fan even made a TikTok highlighting the similarity, per People.
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December 2021: Olivia is “happier than she’s ever been.”
In a new interview, Wilde subtly addressed the public scrutiny surrounding the relationship’s 10-year age gap. While she refrains from naming Styles specifically, she hints that the two are in love and happy with their life together.
“It’s obviously really tempting to correct a false narrative,” she told Vogue. “But I think what you realize is that when you’re really happy, it doesn’t matter what strangers think about you. All that matters to you is what’s real, and what you love, and who you love.”
She went on to explain that social media has made it harder for even the average person to evade constant scrutiny. “In the past 10 years, as a society, we have placed so much more value on the opinion of strangers rather than the people closest to us,” she said. “I’m happier than I’ve ever been. And I’m healthier than I’ve ever been, and it’s just wonderful to feel that.”
December 2021: Harry is getting to know Olivia’s kids.
As the two inch closer to their one-year anniversary, Wilde has taken their relationship to the next level by introducing Styles to her two children, Otis, 7, and Daisy, 5, whom she shares with ex Jason Sudeikis.
A source told People, “Harry is slowly getting to know her kids. Olivia is also spending time with Harry’s mom,” adding that the couple “have a great relationship.”
The couple have managed to make their relationship stronger despite their busy schedules, with Styles wrapping up his Love on Tour and Wilde filming period drama Babylon.
“[They try] to see each other as much as possible,” the insider continued. “Olivia has been flying nonstop between L.A., where her kids live, to join Harry on tour.”
Of Wilde, who has often been seen out and about repping merch from her boyfriend’s concert tour, the source added, “She always seems focused on just making it all work. She is really Harry’s biggest fan.”
February 2022: Harry and Olivia celebrate his birthday in London.
Wilde shared a peek into the couple’s celebrations for Styles’s birthday this year. She posted two pics of herself all dressed up in a Kwaidan Editions jumpsuit on her Instagram Stories February 2, the day after Styles turned 28, per People.
While one pic was a mirror selfie, the second showed her standing behind a candlelit table, with the caption, “Happy happy.”
The pair were also spotted out in London later that week, taking in the “Francis Bacon: Man and Beast” exhibition at the Royal Academy of Arts. In the pics, which you can see here, the stars keep a low profile as they view the artwork. Wilde also shared a snap of one of the paintings on her Story, writing, “Francis Bacon at Royal Academy if you’re in London go, go, go.”
May 2022: Harry opens up about being directed by Olivia on Don’t Worry Darling.
Styles made an appearance on Howard Stern’s SiriusXM show, where Stern asked him, per People, “You fell in love on a movie set?”
“Oh, wow, how to answer this question?” Styles replied. “I had a wonderful experience being directed by Olivia. I think there is something that obviously … acting is very uncomfortable at times. I think you have to trust a lot.”
He added, “Being able to trust your director is a gift.”
He continued, “That was very helpful, and it really meant for a really nice experience working on that movie.”
Wilde directed and costarred in the psychological thriller, which is set for a September 2022 release.
May 2022: Olivia promotes Harry’s new album on Instagram.
Wilde gave a sweet nod to Styles’s album Harry’s House on the day of its release. She shared his song “Music for a Sushi Restaurant,” using it to soundtrack a black-and-white clip from the 2018 film Cold War, where the female lead dances around a bar while drinking a cocktail. She also captioned the post with the hands raised in worship emoji, per Page Six.
The track itself includes a possible nod to Wilde, with lyrics that seem to refer to her green eyes. “Green eyes, fried rice, I could cook an egg on you / Late night, game time, coffee on the stove, yeah,” Styles sings.
August 2022: Harry and Olivia are spotted on a rare date night in NYC.
The couple were seen enjoying a romantic day together, starting with a gym session—where they were photographed sharing a kiss—before heading to a dinner date at SoHo hot spot Rubirosa. The pair kept it casual for the date, with Wilde wearing a navy T-shirt and long skirt in white-and-blue toile de Jouy, while Styles donned a summer sweater in an open flower-shaped knit with brown pinstriped trousers.
August 2022: Olivia raves about Harry’s performance in Don’t Worry Darling, while Harry explains why he keeps his relationships private.
In a new interview with Rolling Stone, Wilde praised her boyfriend’s performance in the psychological thriller. Specifically referring to a “dark as hell … strange scene, full of fascist references, and a disturbing amount of male rage,” in which Styles acted alongside costar Chris Pine, Wilde said, “Harry took it to another level. He was so fully in the moment, he began screaming the lines to the crowd, in this primal roar, that was way more intense than anything we expected from the scene.”
His work “left us all in tears,” she said.
“The camera operator followed [Harry] as he paced around the stage like a kind of wild animal,” Wilde continued. “We were all gobsmacked at the monitor. I think even Harry was surprised by it. Those are the best moments for an actor—when you’re completely outside your body.”
Also in the interview, Styles spoke candidly about why he has decided to keep romantic relationships and his sexuality to himself.
“I’ve never talked about my life away from work publicly and found that it’s benefited me positively,” he told the magazine. “There’s always going to be a version of a narrative, and I think I just decided I wasn’t going to spend the time trying to correct it or redirect it in some way.”
He added, “Sometimes people say, ‘You’ve only publicly been with women,’ and I don’t think I’ve publicly been with anyone. If someone takes a picture of you with someone, it doesn’t mean you’re choosing to have a public relationship or something.”
Of his upcoming performance as a closeted gay police officer in My Policeman, Styles said, “I think everyone, including myself, has your own journey with figuring out sexuality and getting more comfortable with it.”
August 2022: Olivia gets real about keeping their relationship private.
Speaking with Variety, the director opened up about her and Styles’s decision to keep matters of the heart out of the public spotlight.
“I’m not going to say anything about it because I’ve never seen a relationship benefit from being dragged into the public arena,” she said. “We both go out of our way to protect our relationship; I think it’s out of experience, but also just out of deep love.”
Wilde’s split from Jason Sudeikis and the following upending of their family’s dynamic shouldn’t be deemed a spectacle by the tabloids or public, Wilde continued. “The last two years, my family has gone through this kind of restructuring and a revolution that should be a totally personal experience,” she said. “And it’s not. The most painful element of it has been women shaming me for making a decision that was for my own health and happiness.”
She added that there are misogynist undertones when people judge her based on paparazzi photos of her and Styles. “When people see me not with my kids, it’s always ‘How dare she,'” Wilde said. “I’ve never seen anyone say that about a guy. And if he is with his kid, he’s a fucking hero.”
Meanwhile, Styles praised Wilde for her passion on the set of Don’t Worry Darling. “As a director, Olivia is incredibly focused. She communicated what she was looking for from the cast with both clarity and respect,” he told the outlet of his girlfriend. “I think transitioning from acting into directing has made her a director who knows how to get the best out of everyone.”
September 5, 2022: Olivia and Harry make their red-carpet debut at the Don’t Worry Darling world premiere.
The couple attended the international premiere of Don’t Worry Darling at the 79th Venice International Film Festival, where they appeared with cast members Florence Pugh, Gemma Chan, Sydney Chandler, and Chris Pine. They also attended a press conference ahead of the screening.
During the events, they appeared to keep attention on the film rather than their relationship, standing apart during group photos.
September 8, 2022: Olivia slams rumors that she left ex Jason Sudeikis for Harry.
In a new interview with Vanity Fair, Wilde spoke candidly about the public speculation on her relationship with Styles starting before her relationship with Sudeikis ended.
“The complete horseshit idea that I left Jason for Harry is completely inaccurate,” she said. “Our relationship was over long before I met Harry. Like any relationship that ends, it doesn’t end overnight. Unfortunately, Jason and I had a very bumpy road, and we officially dissolved the relationship towards the beginning of the pandemic. We were raising two kids during lockdown, so we co-parented through that time. Once it became clear that cohabitating was no longer beneficial for the children, it became the responsible thing to not, because we could be better parents as friends who live in different houses.”
She also lamented the barrage of criticism she’s received from women who assume that she neglects her kids every time paparazzi capture photos of her and Styles.
“I’ve had women judging me for separating from Jason. There are people who feel entitled to hurl horrendous insults at me and my family. Telling me I’m a terrible mother. Threatening me and my kids or saying I should lose my children,” she said, adding that Sudeikis shares equal custody of their children. “When they are with their father, I trust him to be a great parent. So when they’re not with me, I continue to live my life. But the judgment I’ve seen from people for living my life … I was like, ‘Why are these women finding pleasure in this moment? Is it because it somehow makes them feel better about their lives, judgments, and choices without ever wondering why I might have made those choices?'”
Also in the interview, Wilde praised her boyfriend’s willingness to take risks on the set of Don’t Worry Darling.
“My thing with Harry was that I knew he was fearless,” she said. “I’d rather work with a non-actor who’s fearless than a trained actor who is full of hang-ups and baggage and judgment. What I love about working with singers and dancers is they commit 100 percent because, as a dancer, if you don’t commit 100 percent, you get hurt. With singers, it’s the same. If they sing at 30 percent, that song doesn’t work. I think actors sometimes think they can get away with 30 percent.”
September 19, 2022: Olivia and Harry go to the after-party for the NYC premiere of Don’t Worry Darling.
The couple made a sophisticated appearance for the premiere of Don’t Worry Darling in New York City. For the glitzy occasion, Styles wore a head-to-toe Gucci look, including a velvet double-breasted jacket, a sky blue oxford shirt, navy pants with ivory stripe motifs, and a pair of black leather boots with buckle details. Meanwhile, Wilde looked timeless in a sleek, long-sleeved black gown.
After the premiere, the two were photographed heading to the after-party together.
September 2022: Olivia celebrates the release of Don’t Worry Darling by posting a photo of Harry on Instagram.
In honor of the film’s release, Wilde shared a photo of herself, Styles, Florence Pugh, and screenwriter Katie Silberman sitting around a table on the set of Don’t Worry Darling.
“Don’t Worry Darling is officially open. Aaahhhhhhhh!!!!!!!” the caption read. “I’m so deeply grateful for this experience, and for the extraordinary effort of the group of artists who made it happen. We got together to tell a story for you, and we hope you have fun with it.”
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September 21, 2022: Olivia supports Harry at his concert in NYC.
The actress and director attended her boyfriend’s concert at New York’s Madison Square Garden on Wednesday, September 21, wearing a sleek white Stella McCartney cut-out dress. She paired the look with chunky black platform boots from Casadei, Anita Ko gold jewelry, black sunglasses, and a white feather boa.
Wilde was seen dancing at the arena while the “As It Was” singer captivated the crowd.
October 24, 2022: Olivia wears Harry’s merch while out in L.A.
Wilde was seen wearing her boyfriend’s tour merch while heading out for a workout in Los Angeles. The look included black leggings, matching sneakers, and a gray hoodie with the words “Harry’s House”—the name of the singer’s latest album and current tour.
Wilde smiled as she was spotted by photographers.
The actress and producer is often seen supporting Styles at his concerts and dancing along to his songs backstage.
November 15, 2022: Olivia brings her kids to Harry’s concert.
Wilde made sure to support Styles at one of his shows in Los Angeles—and she brought along some special guests.
Fans shared videos of the director dancing along to the music with her eight-year-old son, Otis, and six-year-old daughter, Daisy, whom she shares with ex Jason Sudeikis.
Their attendance comes soon after Styles nabbed Grammy nominations in the categories of Music Video of the Year, Record of the Year, Song of the Year, and Album of the Year.
November 18, 2022: Olivia and Harry are reportedly “taking a break.”
People reports that the couple are “taking a break” after nearly two years of dating, with multiple sources telling the outlet that they are focusing on different priorities.
“He’s still touring and is now going abroad. She is focusing on her kids and her work in L.A. It’s a very amicable decision,” one source said. “They’re still very close friends.
“Right now, they have different priorities that are keeping them apart,” a friend of the pair added, later alluding to the history of public drama surrounding the couple. “The public pressure on them has been difficult. They’ve had ups and downs throughout the relationship.”
November 22, 2022: Olivia is “disappointed” about the split.
Though sources initially said the pair was just taking a break, an insider said to People that it’s a “tricky situation” and not everyone is on board with the separation.
“The break has been difficult for Olivia. They have had some issues, but Olivia thought they were gonna work through it all. She is disappointed. It’s just a tricky situation, though,” the source said.
February 23, 2023: They’re still “very close friends” post-split.
Wilde and Styles are still on good terms several months post-breakup and have been focusing on their own priorities.
“They’re still very close friends,” an insider tells People, adding that Wilde has been preoccupied with co-parenting alongside ex-fiancé Jason Sudeikis and embarking on new directorial projects. “There’s no animosity whatsoever. Plus, she’s got many different directing projects in the works.”
“Right now, they have different priorities that are keeping them apart,” another friend tells the outlet.
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